I remember years ago someone asked me how my relationship bank account was. I did not know what they were talking about. They began sharing about how just like putting money into your bank account, you also have to make deposits into your relationship account or you could be overdrawing from the relationship.
Thinking about that time and what was said, I have discovered over the years different ways to make deposits and different kinds of account transactions.
They say you get out of marriage what you put into marriage.
We often are great at the withdrawing from our emotional accounts. Taking what we need and sometimes maybe taking our spouse for granted. We do have to make sure in relationship that we are depositing in more than what we need to withdraw. We always want to have a little leftover savings for those times we really need to give grace and never be overdrawn on this account. That is when people become frustrated and feel taken advantage of. Often when the emotional bank account is on empty or overdrawn spouses lose faith and may feel hurt and/or alone. It may leave a feeling of rejection and we all know that this is a big marriage killer.
It is very important to refill your spouses cup with love, compassion, kind words, acknowledgment and grace. Look for creative ways to refill your spouses relationship bank account and also make sure you share with your spouse ways they can make deposits into your relationship account.
What deposits have you put into your spouses account?
- Do you give him the kind of attention he needs to feel your love on regular basis?
- Does she feel heard when she talks to you?
- Are you keeping score of the things that were not done so well or noticing what is going well?
- How do you show your appreciation to your spouse?
- What can they do for you? Have you shared this with your spouse?
What ways do you deposit into your own personal relationship account? Share your ideas.